“In personal growth, despair is just a beautiful place to be in. Because this is where the floor is. Therefore, this is where you can bounce back from the floor and shoot for the skies. If you have the growth mindset, hitting deep down is the start of a great journey up to power and serenity.
From the Book ‘A Lean Mind’
For whoever needs to see this one today.
If you’re down on the floor, be thankful of it.
Because now you can only build on from there, without fear of something to lose.
“The pain caused by the guilt is simply the rejection of what we are doing, where we are, what we did, and where we were; because one belief tells us that it is not good.”
From the Book ‘A Lean Mind’
Let’s talk guilt.
It is a more common feeling than we think. Good news is that it is very easy to notice. We can realize guilt right in the body.
As soon as you feel guilt, unless this is a situation where you actually commited a crime, ask your mind why you feel this emotion.
Deep down, guilt is nothing more than rejection of what you are doing or did, because inner police tells you that it’s against your values.
See if the guilt actually as a point or not. Sometimes, it might have a point, then you can take it as a constructuve feedback from yourself.
If it’s really not logical, how about letting it go?
“Most interpersonal problems start with judgement. Judgement in relationships comes from expectation and identification towards other people.”
From the Book ‘A Lean Mind’
Think of any defective relationship you have, it doesn’t matter how close relationship it is. Look into it deeper.
What was the problem? Why did that problem occur?
When you ask enough ‘Why’ questions, you might realize that the problem comes from judgement, expectation or identification from each other.
What if we recalibrate our expectation from others and remove judgement completely? What if we look at everyone and just appreciate them as they are? Without expecting them to do anything, or without questioning why they do the things they do, and without defining them with adjectives.
Judgement is just our ego telling others how they live life is wrong. Whereas in reality, there is no ‘right’ or ‘wrong’. They are both creations of the ego.
Expectation is only trying to guess how others act. As we mostly guess incorrectly, the problems occur. What if we just accept others and manage how we act by focusing our attention towards us?
Identification is nothing more than defining who the other person is – before we even define who we are.
How would that change your relationships? Why not give it a try?
I’m thrilled to announce that I will be a part of Christina Turner’s Mindet Motivator Challenge to talk about the mental aspect of the weight loss.
You see, I have struggled with my weight for such a long time. It defined me. It broke me, then built me up, and broke me again, and again…
It was a long journey that took my entire childhood to reach an acceptable BMI level to be a ‘human’ – as defined by the society.
It was a constant fight. And that was the problem.
My real problem was mental, just like many people out there struggling with their weight. Just like your mind, your body lives by the emotions and beliefs you choose to run your thoughts.
I will talk to Christina about how I changed my mindset about self-image that eventually led to a state of health and fitness.
You can enroll her free program at https://mindset.trainwtina.com/ It’s going to be 5 days full of amazing motivational content.
Make sure to catch my interview with her on February 1st 1:30 pm PST !
“Joy is a good state to be in. But it is not a life target to be joyful. It is not an aim. It does not exist as a result of anything. It exists now as a possibility.”
From the Book ‘A Lean Mind’
As the humankind, we are so obsessed with finding ways to be happy that we never are.
It is time to put down the distance glasses and see what is right around us.
We are good in educating dogs. However, Humanity can learn few tricks from dogs.
‘A Lean Mind’ was released over a month ago, and I didn’t really opt to have a launch event. So I thought it would be a good idea to create a video to talk about what it is about and what is in it.
I am overwhelmed by your support and feedback so far. I will keep doing my best to share some new ideas and inspiration through the social media.
I hope you enjoy this deep yet brief talk about the life, the universe, and the mind.
“Confidence receives attention. It invites attention. Because cofidence is when a person is not afraid of attention but rather welcomes it with open arms.”
From the Book ‘A Lean Mind’
When you are present, you will not let yourself be passive.
You will naturally be confident and embrace that you will enjoy every piece of life you have.
This is all you have, and this is your life.
Own your moment with all your unique and confident presence. Own it with all your body and mind. Own it with all your weaknesses and imperfections. Enjoy your moment.
“When we feel anger and we use it well, that gives us huge dignity. When we feel fear and we use it well, it saves our lives. When we feel shame and we use it well, it gives us humility.”
From the Book ‘A Lean Mind’
If you were happy all the time, you would not have a full human experience, would you?
All emotions are inside the source code of the mind for a reason. They all serve a purpose for you.
Human psychology is philosophically all about the soul’s dance with the mind’s emotions.
Therefore, to manage the mind, we must manage the emotions. Managing them is a tricky topic, but feasable with the right approach.
“You are a part of a universal balance. Everything that is out of your control happens in a way that you will become an important part of this balance.”
From the Book ‘A Lean Mind’
The universe is fine with everything going on in it. It is a chaotic balance that goes on.
Are you fine with the universe existing the way it does – whether it is good or bad for you subjectively?
I talk a lot about the universe in my book. But chill out, It does not include asking anything from it. It is a combination of a nerdy and spiritual dive.
Read more about how the 2nd Law of Thermodynamics relates to our minds in ‘A Lean Mind’ (Link in Bio).
Ozan Kulcu 